The Expectation Gap
Earlier this month I forwent my usual lunchtime perusal of the Daily Mail website to attend a much more intellectually stimulating debate at the RSA. The topic for discussion was “Modern Parenting: Policy, Politics and the Illusion of Equality” and the turnout (surprise?) was around 3:1 in favour of women. The debate was centred around “Shattered” – the first book from Rebecca Asher, a former executive producer at BBC Radio 4.
As a female who up until this month was still in her early twenties, parenthood and its consequence for working women was not something that registered massively on my radar. Yes, I have seen all the news reports concerning working women and heard many of my colleagues discussing their experiences but surely it is not something I will have to think about for a while? Or is it?!
What struck me during the debate at the RSA was a phrase used by Rebecca early on as she described the confusion for women who mistakenly believe that equality exists in today’s world, only to have their conviction quickly quashed as soon as they have children. She calls this the “expectation gap” - the gap between the equality women see in earlier life and what they experience once they have children.
I’d be interested to hear what the mothers and fathers out there think of this theory – are we mistaken to think that equality exists? Or for that matter do we even believe that equality exists in the first place? In order to avoid future disappointment should I be setting my expectations quite low moving forward?!
[more info including footage from the RSA debate can be found here]
Tags: equality, parenthood, RSA, women
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